Parenting is the greatest, most challenging, most beautiful, and most difficult of all tasks a human being can attempt. From single parenting, to traditional married couples, and grandparents, all have come to me to seek guidance and instruction on how to do it a bit better. There are no easy answers, no quick fixes. It is a process, a journey. I hope to be able to hold your hand during this time and assist in your continuous improvement and learning process.
As a Spiritual Counselor and Parenting Educator I can offer you court approved classes for Post Divorce Cooperative Parenting, communication techniques, General Parenting Skills, and listening skills training. Please feel free to call to set up a private session, or inquire regarding upcoming classes, (760) 792-0381.
Crossroads of Parenting & Divorce 6 Hour classes offered locally:
Crossroads of Parenting & Divorce is a five-step seminar designed to prevent divorce abuse—a specific type of emotional abuse that divorcing parents cause when, in their anger and bitterness, they lose sight of their child’s needs.
This video-based seminar will help parents become aware of how their actions may inadvertently harm their children, show how to establish positive post-divorce co-parenting relationships, and provide them with the skills they need to stay child-focused while minimizing poor choices amidst conflict and loss.
Crossroads of Parenting & Divorce is derived from the evidence-based Cooperative Parenting and Divorce program and shares scenes from the same video.
5 steps to prevent divorce abuse
In just one session (4-6 hours), parents will learn how to implement the 5 prevention steps:
Step 1: Keep your child out of the middle.
Step 2: Allow your child to love both parents.
Step 3: Work on your own recovery.
Step 4: Develop new communication skills.
Step 5: Create a positive new relationship as co-parents.
How the seminar works:
This seminar combines video, activities, skill development and discussion. It is designed for providers to offer court systems a new and more effective form of divorce seminar.
More on parenting: How to raise moral kids?
The question of how to instill a sense of morality, ethics, and good old fashioned "right and wrong" extends beyond religions, yet encompasses all cultures. But, how does one encourage these values in children without making them dogmatic, fanatic, or even worse, intolerant of others?I have met many Atheists who believe in ethical, moral, behavior. The topic is not exclusively for the so called "religious". Behavior that encourages the betterment of humankind, respect and tolerance for all, the protection of the planet, animals, the environment, and family, is behavior that should be modeled for children by their parents. It falls on the parents to teach, practice, and model these values.
Maybe some consider this New Age spirituality, yet these values have been preached for thousands of years in many different cultures. Some might not consider this spiritual at all, but when a lifestyle is filled with the joy of doing what is best for all of us earthly creatures, we build an inner connection with the Divine, the Higher Consciousness, Spirit, God, or whatever you want to call it. We elevate ourselves to a plane of quantum consciousness. The continued practice of these values becomes slowly absorbed in all areas of our life, and we come to know we are living a life well lived. Better yet, we learn to share this "light" with others.So, how do we pass this on to our children? It's all about setting the example.
Children do as we do, and not what we tell them to do. Teaching a child is more about practicing what we preach, than anything else.Dr. Linda Metcalf, in her book "Parenting toward Solutions", stresses the importance of listening to our children. In one case study, she says to a parent: "Observe your daughter as an innocent, vulnerable person who is less experienced than you are." Children are just people with much less experience and brain development, but with huge potential beyond our wildest dreams.
Children, with the exception of those exhibiting psychopathologies, have an inner drive to do what is good and to please their parents. Honoring as sacred their beautiful intentions will aid in building their connection to their own spirituality. In the book The Seven Spiritual Laws for Parents: Guiding Your Children to Success & Fulfillment by Deepak Chopra, Dr. Chopra expands on these basic principles or laws: Everything is possible. If you want to get something, give it. When you make a choice, you change the future. Don’t say no–go with the flow. Every time you wish or want, you plant a seed.
Enjoy the journey. You are here for a reason. I truly believe these statements, or principles can help set the stage for the unfolding of spirituality in the young mind.It does not matter what religion you are, or whether or not your family even has any religious practice. Spirituality is about aspiring to higher version of oneself. Spirituality is about learning to connect with a dimension that connects us with all other beings, plants, and our planet.
My own experience has showed me that I could use a simple checklist to remind myself to use positive reinforcement to help my children feel better about whom they are, and their place in the Universe. The checklist below was a daily ritual for me. I urge you to create your own, and use it daily.Did I mention to my child today how I like “this or that” about who they are, or what they do?Did I tell them I love them?Did I ask them about their day?Did I mention how we as a family might be able to make someone, something (a pet, a neighbor, a plant, or the community) better?Did I tell my children how thankful I am for who they are, who I am, and what we have?Did I encourage them to have some “quiet” time?
A holistic counselor, life coach, or life strategist is not meant to substitute for a psychiatrist nor offer psychological therapy for treatment of psychopathologies. However, with our every day issues of financial concerns, relationship communication issues, parenting, and career direction, a Holistic Counselor can be the answer. In the same way a Notary Public, Translator, or Immigration Specialist is not a lawyer and cannot offer legal advice.